Stress To Smile ...A journey worth documenting

Stress to smile is a journey from crooked lines  to  cute curves.
1)As a parent the most painful period is when we lose that  perfect alignment in our relationship with our child . 
2)Like in any other relationship, parent and child dynamics also has its own ups and downs. Throughout the parenting journey from infant to young adult the power dynamics keeps altering and this causes silent stress to parents and children.
3)Unlike other relationships where we can step back and take a back seat in the relationship as a parent one cannot afford to do it .Whatever be the stress, how much ever be the stress as a parent we have to face it and brave it out.At times this constant gloom of stress takes a toll on our health and personal happiness.
4)The main reason why we face stress as a  parent is due to our lack of planning , our sense of authority and power play and most importantly our undue expectations from our child.
5)As a parent we need to have a clear understanding of our child's age  appropriate and reasonable needs and demands. When we have a clear picture as to what to expect we will be better equipped.For instance , if as a working mother you have not been able to spend some good quality time with your midschooler child, you can talk to him/her about it inform them about your busy schedule and plan out a mom and child day out to have pure fun and catch up on the lost time . This kind of prior planning and open communication will help you to remain connected with your child and will ease out any strees that you or  the child  may be facing.
6)During exams  be it the regular school exams or the board exams,  children and parents tend to get stressed out and often end up blaming each other for it.Instead, if the parents are little proactive and follow a simple routine of study time outdoor games time, family fun time and open chat time  it will help in keeping the bond between the parents  and children in great shape.
7)The underlying cause  of stress in any  relationship is generally due to the burden of  expectations and the  resulting disappointment . Although as a  parent  we understand that we need to refrain from having  high expectations from our children in any sphere of life ,yet very often we end up raising our expectations and assumptions.This causes unnecessary stress and severe  mental duress both on the parent and the child.
8)The simplest way to mitigate all the above is to remain constantly mindful and connected with our children.
9)In today's scenario where we are busy in carving out our own career and  busy providing a comfortable life style to our children, we tend to forget the present moments.We let our aspirations take over  lives and end up messing and missing the essence of parenting and family life .
10)The road to becoming an involved and invested parent is to be present all the time for the child in some form or the other be it mentally or physically. When we are connected with our child at a deeper level we can handle the stress better .
11)When  parents are conscious and conscientious they tend to   keep the stress levels minimum at home throughout and especially during the  exams which will help the child to be confident while preparing for  it or any other challenge.
12)A mindful parent will help turn  stress generated fine distorted lines into sweet and cute smiling curves . 
All it needs is a bit of pre planning and fair dealings.
Stress and smile are two sides of the same coin, choose wisely.



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